Having rough sex can be just a hot romp between the sheets, but it also serves as a validation for male feelings of self and the layered and complex feelings about a partner, and women, in general. So, when she suggests rough sex, or he suggests it and she agrees to have it, that construct and the comfort the construct brings, is overturned. Or slap her, doggie style — a hallmark of rough sex. This will get the conversation going. And they get pleasure out of watching their partners become aroused from the rough, sexual exchange. The last thing the two of you want interrupting your domination play is her having to tell you to stop because you're actually hurting her — because you didn't buy a lube or got a cheap, water-based one that's already worn off. Your vocalizations will turn up the mood.
Paige. Age: 24.
AskMen Recommends: Not everyone will be into using a ball gag, but if both of you are into really rough sex this can be an intense way of shifting the power dynamic and giving you a ton of control to take charge while still figuring out a safe gesture or sign in case she needs you to stop.
Melody. Age: 29.
The Art Of Rough Sex
A safe word is a word, which when spoken, means "stop everything. If they were slaying Wall Street while wearing leather and downing shots between stock trades, men might not be so surprised when these types of women want it rough. Truth be told, women are into sex a lot more than men realize. She may be the natural who gets your juices flowing.